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You bought the course. You’ve read the book. You’ve paid for coaching. What happens next week when you’re all alone? What about the week after that when your coach isn’t available? Who holds you accountable to your goals? Who is ultimately responsible for your “why” and whether or not you take the next action?
It’s your body, your mind, and your passions. You got this!
Self-coaching is your key to real transformation in your life when no one else is there to hold you accountable.
Here are three steps you can take right now to kick your self-coaching into gear.
1. Create quality thoughts.
Respect the power of your thoughts and use them to your advantage. Your thoughts run the show, so be mindful that the way you feel is the result of your thoughts. I didn’t come up with this idea. The theory has been around for thousands of years. If you want to be sad, then be sad. As soon as that feeling is no longer serving you, take comfort in knowing you have the ability to change your thoughts to get a different result.
Using the Law of Attraction, focus on quality thoughts to begin to attract quality things into your life. Like attracts like. I will explain this in more detail in a future blog post.
2. Ask yourself the right questions.
Don’t be shy, talk to yourself. Some of my favorite questions to ask myself are:
Who am I? (Identity)
What is my why? (The reason I do what I do)
What am I going to do about it? (Action Plan)
What can I learn from this? (Learning Opportunity)
How can I make this work for me? (Turning a negative into a positive)
(check out a previous blog post where I explain the benefit of the last two questions)
Asking the right question puts the onus on you to make a decision. It puts you in the best possible position to succeed. It also helps you navigate those negative thoughts that tend to pop up when you least expect it.
3. Own your happiness.
Owning your happiness means that you are in charge. You call the shots. You don’t blame others for how you feel. You own your feelings, and you learn from mistakes.
You are not responsible for someone else’s happiness. Someone else is not responsible for your happiness. You are responsible for your thoughts and your happiness. No exceptions.
Reality check: You are the only one who is with yourself at all times. You own your thoughts.
The most important advice I can give you as a coach is to learn how to coach yourself when there is nobody else around. You get to be the boss. You are in charge.
Are you familiar with self-coaching? If so, how do you coach yourself? If not, does it sound like something that would benefit you? Please leave a comment and let me know.
Cheers,
This is something I work on every day…. I try to remind myself that no one is responsible for me but me!! It’s so much easier to blame others, but in the end it’s exactly like you say: “You are the only one who is with yourself at all times. You own your thoughts.”
Great advice, not just for coaches but for those struggling with money mindset issues or any other sort of “victim mentality.”
Thanks, Jace!!
Nice! Powerful! So key to take control of your own destiny! Cheers!
Thank you, Diane! Happy to hear you work on this every day. You are a great influence to those around you. Cheers
High Five! You are the boss. Thanks Brad!
Powerful tips Jace! Love how you guide us to take charge of our minds, happiness and lives.
Thank you, Catarina! Thoughts are my thing. They are so powerful. I’m committed to learning more about harnessing the power of them and then teaching others. Cheers
Great advice Jace, just love this blog post, I ask myself all the time what is my why? I think just to be in the moment and to bring myself to that place to remember why I am doing what I am doing .
Jace, you always hit that nail right on the head! 🙂 Great read!
Thank you, Bernadine! I love that you are asking yourself what your why is. So important. Cheers
High Five Ashley! Thank you for checking out my blog. Cheers
Yes! I haven’t studied it formally but I will either ask myself what I would tell a friend in a similar situation or ask myself the tough questions like you said in #2. I see the value in working with a great coach, but why let the fun stop there? Self coaching is very effective!!
Nice! Thank you, Erin! Another win for self-coaching. Cheers
“Own your happiness” ~ love this! And the great reminder to ask the “why” + to have an action plan. Thanks for the awesome tips, Jace! 🙂
Thank you, Patti! High five!
Great read Jace, I am doing all these things quite successfully, especially I like using, saying or writing Mantras over and over. However there comes a stage where a coach can help you see clearer and advance faster
Thank you, Andrea! Coaches are super important. I highly recommend everyone find the right coach for them. Self-coaching does not mean choosing not to have a coach in your life. It means building up your skills and having the confidence to take action in between coaching sessions when no one else is around. Self-coaching is equally as important as having a solid coach. I think they go together nicely. Cheers
All powerful tips indeed! Your thoughts do create your reality. I love that you wrote “own your happiness”…that is golden.
Thank you, Michele! High five!